There are two schools of thought when it comes to falling in love and relationships. One incorporates the law of attraction: like attracts like. So only those couples who share common characteristics would be successful. The other belief is that opposites attract, meaning that the relationships where the partners are yin and yang, or their opposite traits keep their partnership thriving.
We aren’t relationship experts, but we do believe that it all depends on the couple. And we’re also seeing that when it comes to the relationship between “Fixer Upper” stars Chip and Joanna Gaines, the “opposites attract” theory is very much where they live. But they also credit an incredible shared faith in God for their successful marriage.
The fun and loving renovators, who hail from Waco, Texas, took part in the White Chair Films video series for the inspirational website “I Am Second” in 2016. In it, they explained how what some couples might find challenging is what they most appreciate in each other.
Joanna smiles as she explains, “If you give Chip a boundary, he’s going to break that boundary. If you give him a rule, he’s not going to follow it, and if you tell him, ‘You can’t go past this line,’ he’s going to put his toe over it.” She goes on to admit, “I like safety. I like knowing what’s coming. I don’t want to be surprised. I don’t know if we would have dated in college if we would have known each other.”
On the other hand, Chip describes Joanna as “the purest, most stable person I’ve ever met.” He says, “I would have been the guy on horseback riding off into the wilderness. That’s sort of who I was by nature and Jo could not be more opposite of that.”
As different as they are from one other — Joanna with her slender, exotic beauty and quiet charm, and Chip with his scruffy, frat boy-next-door zaniness — it is in those differences that they find balance. Chip admits, “When I caught her, I finally felt content for the first time in my life. I felt like I could be exactly who I was.” And for Joanna, Chip has challenged her sense of order. “For someone who is a rule follower to a T, it’s an adventure,” she says.
But there’s another element in this dynamic couple’s relationship that deserves a lot of credit for their success: their faith.
“I learned so much about order and structure and processes through my wife, and God is all of those things to me now,” Chip says. “But at the beginning, God was just chaotic to me. He was wild. He was untamed. He was unruly, and I liked that.”
But as much as Chip discovered structure in Joanna’s walk with Christ, she found the strength to let go of her preconceived rules for life in Chip’s spiritual journey.
She explains, “My walk with God when I was little and all the way up until, like, my 20s was always play by the rules, you’ll be blessed. But then I met Chip and I feel like now it’s when you take a step out in faith when it makes absolutely no sense, I think that’s where the greater reward is. There’s no telling where that will take you.”
That’s for sure! It was Chip’s fearlessness and encouragement that convinced Joanna to journey with him from a humble college couple flipping houses in their hometown to make ends meet to stepping in front of a camera for HGTV and growing an empire, as well as becoming role models for other couples.
With their run on the successful renovation series nearing its end, things only seem to be getting better for the Gaines’. Their Magnolia and Silo brands continue to thrive with the addition of the Magnolia Table restaurant in Waco.
And goodness knows the family is thriving as well. Baby Gaines No. 5 will make his or her big debut this summer.