As much as there has been a movement towards empowering young women and shutting down social media haters and body-shamers, it only takes a minute to see that passing judgment still runs rampant, especially on social media. Even those who openly profess their Christianity seem to forget Matthew 7:1 — “Judge not lest ye be judged.”
But one beautiful, kind, intelligent and incredibly talented singer-songwriter, Cam, is taking control of the impact that harsh social media words can cause, and her wise statement can easily empower anyone else who comes under the criticism of others.
Cam, best known for her 2015 hit “Burning House” and current single “Diane,” shared that wise statement on her Instagram page, captioning a photo that shows the sweet aspiring star taking a selfie in what appears to be her tour bus mirror. Most would look at this picture and see a confident young performer with a tousle of cherubic blond curls, a sweet but sexy lacy top and fun, trendy jeans. But the expression on Cam’s face tells a different story.
The young artist confirms that emotion when she writes, “Check out that look of concern! This was 2017, sending a pic to one of my besties asking if I looked ugly/ridiculous/stupid. Before every show or public appearance, I put myself through about one hour of anxiety, trying to fix myself up to match some idea of what I’m ‘supposed’ to look like. Doesn’t matter if I have a stylist or makeup artist helping me either [by the way], I still get anxious. Once I’m onstage it disappears, but it’s frustrating that I let this insecurity become a routine that eats at my time, money, confidence and, ultimately, reinforces the idea that I am not in control of my own worth.”
She then says, “But I am.”
And it is in Cam’s next paragraph that perhaps women and men, young and old, no matter their career path or journey, can find inspiration to gain power over the negativity and judgment of others.
“How I make people feel is how they REALLY see me,” she writes. “How ‘beautiful’ I am only really matters to shallow people (and industry losers), but usually they are so concerned with their own appearance they don’t really see me. Beauty is a made up set of rules to follow — an ever-changing game we unconsciously agree to play every day (especially on social media). But it doesn’t make my music any better, it doesn’t make me happier and it’s actually a massive waste of my potential to put someone else’s ideas ahead of my own. So I’ve decided I’m gonna leave these insecure moments in 2017. I’m gonna save my give-a-fuck’s for magical stuff this year. Just like that. So here I go, looking however I look, without the worry, to more present and powerful experiences in 2018 💪🏻💃🏼💛 #2018goals”
Entertainers know that social media can be a powerful tool not just for sharing new music and tours, but also for connecting with their beloved fans. It can also initiate positive change with kindness, compassion and perspective.
It’s up to you.